How do I know if I’m stuck?

When you’re in a situation it can be hard to recognise that you are in it. We all know that feeling when a friend comes to us describing a dilemma (generally an emotional one) looking for advice, and we think it’s a no brainer. In fact, it can often be that we’re wondering why they are even asking at all. You know if the boot were on the other foot, they would instantly give you the same steer. 

It can be because they are so caught up in the situation, that they can’t see clearly. I think we are all generally aware that this can happen when it involves emotions or affairs of the heart. But it can also be the case in less obvious places, like in the office. How do you know if you have a healthy perspective; how do you know if you are just stuck? 

I have experienced this myself. I worked somewhere for a few years and its only when I left it (through a mixture of luck and judgement!), that I realised I was stuck and should’ve left it a long time ago. I was able to see this because I had moved out of the situation and able view it from a different angle, a less involved one. I became aware. 

For me, that’s the key, awareness. Just like with the other dilemmas we face in life; we need to make ourselves aware of what is actually going on. Are you feeling frustrated with the project team because they aren’t performing, or is it because you’ve lost the energy for it? Are you coming home and feeling tired because of a tough day or just because your role is really not energising you anymore? 

Getting and maintaining that awareness is easier said than done. But it can be done. The key thing here is to create that time and space to allow yourself to reflect. Try talking to someone like a trusted friend or a coach who can help you to challenge and really be honest with yourself. Remember the friend who was so caught up they couldn’t see clearly?